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Is it normal that i wish my teacher loved me like a daughter
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Well, it's like this. For awhile now, me and this teacher have become close. She's always there when i need her, can talk to her about anything, really like her as a person and just generally look up to her. However it's becoming strange, sometimes i stay behind just to speak to her, catch a quick conversation. Also i may feel secure or comforted when i see her around school. I just generally love her, and hate to be away from her. Only it's not that i'm in love with her, it's just i want her to love me as a daughter. I'm not insane and i know she has her own children and it's an inappropriate thing to think, i just can't help it. She has always been there through my darkest days, i can't even begin to explain what she has done for me over the years. It just seems whatever time with her i get, or whatever attention i get just isn't enough, isn't ever enough. This leaves me feeling hollow and empty. I'm really not looking for anyone to leave any nasty comments, really just want someone to relate to, who feels the same? Please leave your mail if you do.
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Message HereDon&t Marry A Soldier
Don&t Marry A Soldier
typical US soldier in Iraq
The main reason there are so many sexual psychopaths and serial killers (aka soldiers)
in the world is that women find them sexually exciting.
~ Roedy (born: age:67)
Single soldiers are usually young, handsome and athletic. No wonder they so easily
turn a girl&s head. However, here are 49 reasons I think
you should not marry a military man or woman. You will never make a bigger mistake in
your life. I use the term soldier with the same metonomy Buffy
St. Marie used in her song The Universal Soldier to stand for all military
people. This applies not just to the US military, though most of my examples are taken
from the USA. Think of it as like a prose folk song, something a father might sing to his
daughter. You must use your head as well as your heart.
Military personnel have a divorce rate twice
that of civilians. 43% of all military marriages end in
divorce within 10 years. . Why would
military marriages be so fragile? Keep reading.
In , 6000 vets committed
suicide. Why? Because they were so ashamed of themselves that they felt compelled to
execute themselves. Think how many more vets are crippled with guilt who want to
commit suicide but can&t quite bring themselves to do it. Do you want to risk
marrying someone who deserts you by killing himself? Do you want to be married to a
man who has committed deeds so terrible he feels suicide is the only way to atone for
them? Do you want to be tied to someone who is so suicidally depressed that no
treatment or medication helps? Do you want a man in your bed, or near your kids, who
has committed deeds so unspeakably awful he is too ashamed to tell
anyone what they were. This psycho signed a contract when he
enlisted agreeing to kill any child for no reason other than he was ordered to. It
would be like asking Michael Vick to take care of your puppy while you were on
Psychopaths are incredibly charming. They appear to be kinder and more considerate
than normal folk. They have to keep up this act because they don&t actually
have normal feelings. When they are exposed, everyone is astounded that such a nice
fellow could commit such crimes. Look at the evidence. If you partner has any history
of killing or torturing others, he could well eventually come for you or your family
under the right stressors. Even Hitler was kind to his dogs. Watching him interact
with them, you would never guess what he was capable of. Now 18 vets a day
& considerably more than are killed in combat. If that many
actually kill themselves, that means there are hundreds of times that number utterly
miserable, just dragging through life wishing they could kill themselves. Consider
the effect of his protracted depression, then suicide on you and your children. Even
if he does not go all the way to suicide, you will be the breadwinner for the entire
family, plus all the duties of wife and mother. He will just drag you down into the
pit of despair with him if you don&t divorce him.
In the past decade, the US Army lost more soldiers to suicide than to enemy fire in
Afghanistan.
~ Rachel Maddow (born: age:58)
Since the soldiers know better than anyone exactly what is going on in Afghanistan
and Iraq and they are killing themselves in record numbers, presumably what the
soldiers are doing is quite a bit more shameful than the administration lets on.
When soldiers return from Afghanistan they often either attempt suicide or
complete it. Everyone knows that combat often leads to
(Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder),
brain damage and suicide. Suicide is more common than
death in combat. So the most important question is, why did these people enlist to go
to Afghanistan in the first place?
They were not conscripted. Of all possible things to do with their lives they
voluntarily signed on as soldiers, agreeing to kill whomever they were ordered
It was not to protect Canada. Canada attacked Afghanistan, not the reverse.
Afghanistan was so impoverished, that an attack on Canada would have been
impossible.
It was not for the money. Military families often have to seek welfare.
It was not to help the people of Afghanistan. Canadians refuse to donate even
pennies to help people in the third world.
It was not for the travel to exotic places. Afghanistan are hell holes.
What does that leave? They enjoy soldiering, namely bullying, killing,
torturing and sometimes raping and pillaging. When they get back they become
terminally guilty and kill themselves. It a natural consequence. They deserve the
same mourning as other multiple killers.
Your loved one will be off for months and years at a time. He
may be back only days before being shipped out again. This can be a pretty lonely
life. If you have children, you will be largely raising them by yourself. Without a
full time father, they are more likely to have behavioural problems. Your husband
will probably be away when your children are born, leaving you to endure labour
alone and missing those crucial first hours of bonding. Ask any child of a military
man. They make distant, aloof fathers. They don&t bond properly.
The military whips recruits into good physical shape. It is hard
not to be swept away by that trim athletic body. That is about the only plus and
even that won&t last forever. If you do decide to marry a soldier, that is
probably the real reason. Hormones are taking over your brain. You are picking a good
mate as if you lived in a cave and needed a muscular brute to protect you from wild
animals. Think of the misery you know others have found marrying a handsome bastard.
If your husband participates is an aggressive war (illegal first strike war) such as Afghanistan or Iraq,
he is guilty of a capital war crime, even if he just peeled potatoes. The USA
currently does not recognise the authority of the world court and acts to protect its
vets from prosecution. However, the USA will not always be the world&s only
superpower and won&t be able to thumb its nose at the world court forever. In
the meantime, other countries are treaty bound to prosecute your husband if he steps
on their soil. Most don&t do it, because they fear the American reprisal, but
that will not necessarily always be true. There is no statute of limitations on war
crimes. Prosecuted or not, you are still married to a war criminal, guilty of the
same crime as the Nazis hanged at the end of WWII (World War II).
Unless he reaches high rank, he will never be able to provide for
you and your family properly. Many soldiers& wives live worse than those on
You will be transferred over and over. You have to pull up roots
on a moments notice and move off somewhere else. You have no say in the matter. If
you have children, they will become army brats, children
who never learn to socialise with other children since they are never in one place
long enough to make lasting friends, children who do poorly in school because of the
repeated disruptions. You can&t have a career of your own because you are
forced over and over to quit without notice. All this moving means you can&t
put down roots anywhere or make lasting friends. You are nothing more than the wife
of your husband, a decorative adjunct without value in your own right. You
won&t even have the support of your family since they may be continent&s
away. If you have children, your mother and father will hardly ever get to hang out
with that is quite selfish. You may be forced to transfer your
young family to some third world country, ripe with parasites, tropical diseases,
poisonous insects and snakes. Even if you don&t transfer, your husband will
bring back these parasites, tropical diseases and funguses back to infect you and
your children.
You will constantly dread that phone call or knock on the door to
let you know your husband has been seriously injured or killed. There will be a knock
on the door. There will be a man in crew cut standing there who says, I am sorry for your loss in a rather wooden, bored way. You will have
to start your life all over from scratch. Or it could be your husband himself in a
wheelchair, looking many pounds overweight, speaking in a halting, brain-damaged,
distracted voice, like someone with Alzheimers, with an ostomy bag strapped to his
stomach. Loss of genitals is a common injury. For the rest of his life, you are
obligated to be his nurse rather than his wife. All he will be capable of doing is
eating, drinking beer and watching TV.
Your husband can be killed at any time. It is a sword of
Damocles over your head for his entire career. He will leave you to care for your family as
a single parent.
It is common for soldiers to suffer from PTSD.
may panic at any loud sound. He may wake up in the night screaming. He may attack you
imagining you are an enemy soldier. He may become paranoid. Make sure you learn what
is before you presume love will automatically give you the resources to deal with it.
v Women have anonymously complained that the military trains their
men to hide emotions. They become emotional clams unwilling to face any emotional or
relationship problem. This drives women crazy. Men in general have this tendency to
some extent anyway.
If you discovered your fianc& had murdered his previous
two wives, you might have second thoughts, ditto if you had discovered he had
murdered a dozen strangers of random ages and genders just because he was paid to.
You are considering marrying a man who is under unbreakable contract to the
government to kill strangers and who may have already done it. If he later gets a
crisis of conscience and refuses to kill one of his assigned targets, he can he shot
on the spot. What kind of person signs such a contract? Not even Mafioso enslave
themselves to that extent.
Force always attracts men of low morality.
~ Albert Einstein
(born: died: at age:76)Soldiers often do some disreputable things under peer pressure that they
avoid talking about. This is includes drinking to excess, whoring, drug-taking,
raping, bullying and terrorising, hazing, killing and raping children and torturing.
The fundamentalist Taliban had eliminated drug trafficking. Under US military
control, Afghanistan has risen to #1 heroin producer in the world, selling over a
trillion dollars worth a year. This could not happen if US soldiers were not
complicit in the drug trade. Recall that a significant number of US soldiers returned
from Viet Nam addicted to heroin. The remote control nature of much of modern warfare
ensures the primary targets will be children and civilians. A soldier often does not
even see his victims. When he kills blindly like this e.g. with napalm, cluster
bombs, land mines or white phosphorus, in a third world country like Iraq where most
of the people are under 15, inevitably he kills more children than adults and
civilians than soldiers. In addition when American soldiers attack they have a
massive advantage in power, armaments and technology. This power corrupts them to toy
with the civilian populations, to torment them for amusements like a child tormenting
insects. The military likes remote control warfare because it keeps their soldiers
safe and it protects the soldiers from emotionally feeling the impact of their
butchery. These soldiers look just like anyone else. You would never guess from the
soldiers& clean-cut faces what mischief they have been up to. Recall the pudgy
boyish face of Lt. Calley of the Mai Lai massacre in Viet Nam. The domestic charms of
house and home don&t quite do it for them anymore. These sadistic desires were
always in the background. The thrill of violence was part of the appeal for them
enlisting & to commit cruel acts without any possibility of legal
repercussions. When you marry a soldier, you are marrying someone more prone to
abusing you and your children too. His standards of what constitutes acceptable
behaviour are warped by war experience.
A Canadian soldier returned from the relatively gentle
Afghanistan war with PTSD. He repeatedly abused his infant triplet sons,
. He blamed the attacks on his condition. Do you really
want someone with PTSD
anywhere near your kids or near you? The
reported that American soldiers returning from Iraq are being sent
home to their families without treatment. According to
one in eight soldiers returning from
Iraq are suffering from PTSD. Less than half seek treatment. Some soldiers are able
to separate their family life from their life as killers. They may appear completely
normal and loving, though obviously it is great stress to do so.
double amputee
Your husband can suffer a brain injury or be made
a paraplegic. This is 2 to 8
times as likely as death depending whom you ask.
Columbia University said that as of , there were
servicemen with brain, spinal, amputation
and other serious injuries and about 20% of those injured
have suffered major head or spinal injury. This turns him into a giant infant who has
to be feed, bathed and diapers changed. You are morally stuck with caring for him
24/7 for the rest of your life whether you continue to love him or not.
When you rip off the pretty bunting, what the military is
about is killing, torturing, maiming and terrorising people. In modern warfare, most
of the victims are civilians and most of those are children. On some level, your
husband was drawn to this killing. There is a cloak of respectability, even nobility
that the government casts over it, but when you get down to it, soldiers do the exact
same thing as Mafia hit men & kill just because they were ordered too. Though
they give lip service to personal responsibility, they are brainwashed to the point
disobeying an order becomes unthinkable. They consider deciding who has the right to
live a superior&s total responsibility. At Nuremberg, humanity proclaimed that
claiming I was just following orders. is not sufficient
excuse for murder. Your potential husband, agrees with the Nazis. He thinks he is
morally off the hook so long as someone else gave him permission to murder. How else
could he make up excuses for killing civilians and children? Do you really want this
man passing those sorts of dark genes to your offspring? Instead of spawning more
little soldiers, you could just as well spawn more little criminals. What sort of
woman are you to choose such genes for your children. It is as sick as marrying a
criminal on death row. Every soldier swears up and down he never killed any
civilians and never saw it happen. Oddly though, if you look at the statistics, on
average, one civilian gets killed for every US soldier serving in Iraq, so it has to
be common. Perhaps they don&t count deaths by incendiary chemicals, squashing
with armoured vehicles, bombs burying alive in rubble or land mines, only shooting.
You also might wonder about a man that selected an
occupation that would keep him away from his wife most of the time, especially when
he spends that time in the company of young fit men excluding the company of women.
If he is a closeted homosexual or bisexual, getting married primarily to satisfy the
demands of his parents and church, you are in for a life of misery. He will never be
able to truly love you. He will never be true to you. Gay men used to sign on as
sailors in the days of sailing ships, but would have a wife, in name only. Even
straight men in prisons and in the military without access to women often resort to
homosexual encounters.
Soldiers are often exposed to teratogens like
DU (Depleted Uranium), herbicides (like Viet
Nam&s Agent Orange laced with dioxin), chemicals, chemical warfare, biological
warfare, not to mention exotic parasites and tropical diseases. This may cause cancer
later, or even more likely will cause your children and their children to be
Would you ever forgive yourself if your child was born hideously deformed, or even
mildly damaged because of the damage these agents did to your husband&s sperm?
Over half the soldiers who served in the Gulf War, died of Gulf War Syndrome or were
treated for it. They were in Iraq for only weeks. Your husband will be there years.
Not only the returning soldiers suffered from Gulf War syndrome, but also their
children and wives. Soldiers brought back loathsome diseases, parasites, toxins and
radioactivity. The military, in most cases, refused medical aid.
If you love and cherish your husband, you are encouraging and
enabling him to do his job of soldiering. Soldiering is a sickening, revolting job,
and it takes the memory of a loving wife for many to continue. You then became
complicit is his war crimes. You are morally tarred with his misdeeds. Today, Canada
and the USA only fight in illegal aggressive wars. They are not defending their
countries as did soldiers in past. You are sacrificing yourself for goals as evil as
any Nazi wife did, mostly killing civilians and children and teenagers who posed no
threat to Canada, the USA or Britain. Have a look at photos of some of the children
hideously tortured and killed by the likes of people just like your husband. The
people who committed these atrocities appear just as sweet as your guy. They
don&t have green saliva. That is his dirty secret. He gets off on killing and
admit it, so do you or your heart would not be attracted to such a man.
If your soldier lover woos you and holds out the promise of
marriage, but never seems to pop the question, consider he may already have a wife
back home and he is just using you for sex.
Nazi soldiers were popular to start, but as their deeds became more
and more widely known, all decent society shunned them. Soldiers who serve in illegal
aggressive wars to plunder a small nation&s natural resources, such as the
Afghan war or Iraq war, will over time become more and more pariahs, eventually
subject to death threats and anonymous attacks, just as Nazis and Nazi collaborators
were hounded. They could even face kidnapping and prosecution as international war
criminals. The penalty for engaging in aggressive war at Nuremberg was death. Today
it would be life imprisonment, an even crueller punishment. Consider how people who
participated in the Viet Nam war have over the years become more and more pariahs.
The shame of the Afghanistan and Iraq wars will be even greater because of the use of
banned weapons and torture and the craven motive for the war.
a young woman told me
she had gone to a bar and met a pleasant young man, who turned out be joining the
military. The young woman recoiled and asked How will you
feel when you are ordered to drop a bomb? You will be killing
innocent people, perhaps a child. How will you feel about killing a
child? He responded, It wouldn&t matter so
long as it was a foreign child. This is every
soldier&s true answer. He could not kill children, a required side effect of
modern warfare, if he were not that callous. You can read
or you can check with returning vets. If a soldier is driving in a convoy, he will be
ordered to run over any Iraqi child who gets in the way and not stop under any
circumstances. Your boyfriend knows this and is eager for the experience. You
don&t want that sort of man anywhere near your children, born or yet to be
born. What sort of mother are you that you would leave your kids alone with a man who
put no value on the lives of children?
Military men can become addicted to combat. They crave
the danger, the killing and the intense emotional involvement with other men, the
adrenalin rush. Peaceful civilian life just bores them and they abandon their
families over and over to get their adrenalin fix with their buddies. Sebastian
Junger describes the phenomenon in his New York Times best seller&
Impersonal killers are like drug addicts.
The first time gives them the ultimate high and after that, no high is as good.
Unfortunately, the addict doesn&t know that.
He will chase that high to the gates of insanity and death.
By now, killing is all our unsub[unknown subject killer] thinks about.
He&s set up the exact same situation again and again, hoping to get the same
He begins to think he&s doing it wrong.
He becomes obsessed with improving his skills, honing his m.o.
And tailoring his weapon to his deadly purpose.
He figures if he gets them all just right, if he can get his technique and his
tools perfected, he&ll feel that first high again.
He&s becoming a more lethal addict.
and he&ll never accept that the high is gone and it won&t come back.
He&ll never stop.
~ Aaron Hotch Hotchner
Criminal Minds played by Thomas Gibson (born: age:53)
This addiction to killing is what really draws soldiers to enlist
for pitiful pay, long hours and disgusting, dangerous working conditions.
Military life is all about giving and executing orders.
Mentally healthy people don&t enjoy bullying or being bullied. By marrying a
soldier you are on some level getting involved in a relationship game of
dominance/submission, even S&M (Sadism & Masochism).
If you are not into it
yourself, you are setting yourself up for hell. The fantasy may be titillating, but
the reality is for most people either terminally boring or terrifying. The military
is all about hierarchy, status and blind obedience the very opposite of the teamwork
equality needed for a good marriage.
What do you think of the wife of a serial killer, someone who
murders dozens of innocent women and children? Someone like Karla Homolka. You feel
revulsion. You wonder what sort of perverse motivation attracted her to such a
killer. You wonder how she could bear to lie in bed next to such a creep. That is how
many people will feel about you if you a marry a soldier, aka a hit
man, a serial killer paid by the military to butcher and torture innocent people with
illegal horror weapons such as napalm, cluster bombs, white phosphorus and land
mines. To create shock & awe, they use weapons that kill as more painfully than
any civilian serial killer would devise. Even after you come to your senses and
divorce the creep, the shame will stick to you for the rest of your life.
How do you feel about Eva von Braun, Mrs. Adolph Hitler? She
did not kill anyone, but she supported her husband in some rather unsavory acts. Were
she still alive, people would spit on her and try to run her down with their cars.
Your potential husband will be a war criminal, like Hitler, just not on such a grand
scale, but if his deeds were known, (especially torture, white phosphorous and crimes
against children), it would bring equal disapprobation on you. Some people will
despise you even more than they despise the Nazi wives for your r&le is
supporting and encouraging your serial killer husband. The Nazi wives had the excuse
of being swept away by masterful propaganda. You don&t. You took on your
support r&le with eyes wide open. You can expect the hatred toward you to grow,
just as it did the Nazi wives, as the deeds of their husbands became more widely
Many soldiers become addicted to dangerous drugs. They are easy to
get and cheap in third world countries. They many not even realise they are taking
heavy drugs. For example in the Viet Nam era, Viet Cong would secretly salt American
soldiers& beer with opium. Further, soldiers lied to themselves that opium in
this form was harmless. They may take drugs to deal with the pressure of combat.
Drugs are known under local names and soldiers kid themselves they must be harmless.
Timothy McVeigh became addicted to methamphetamines while on duty in Desert Storm in
Iraq. This made him psychotic. Life in a combat zone has few pleasures and many
sorrows so soldiers commonly turn to drugs for relief just to cope. On top of that
the government gives soldiers upper to keep them alert on long missions.
Eventually the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq will be over and
people from those countries will come as tourists or immigrants to the USA. It is not
rocket science to find out who &served& in Afghanistan and Iraq and even
the atrocities they were involved in. Your husband&s victims may decide the
only way they can have closure is to kill him, you and your entire family. This is
trivially easy to accomplish in peacetime thanks to the
(National Rifle Association).
do it in a way less painful and lingering your husband used.
The invasion and occupation of Iraq is illegal.
(born: age:77)Secretary General and
(born: age:92)
former Secretary General of the U.N.
I think in this case international law stood in the way of doing the right thing.
~ Richard Perle (born: age:74), , Pentagon hawk,
cat-stroking, Ernst Stavro Blofeld, James Bond villain pasty lookalike, admitting the Iraq war is illegal.
Since Kofi Annan and Boutros Boutros-Ghali
of the U.N. have declared the Iraq invasion and occupation illegal, your husband will
technically be an international war criminal. This means he may at any time be
arrested if you leave the country to travel in a country that subscribes to the
International Court in The Hague. The USA may not forever be powerful enough to
protect him from prosecution, even on home soil. It is a hanging offence, though more
likely it will e commuted to life imprisonment. Recall that some Nazis faced
prosecution even into their 90s. That possibility will hang over you the rest of your
Many returning from Iraq become
unable to deal with the horrors of war and the guilt at what
they have done. They beat up their children and wives and are emotionally distant.
Friends and family reject them. They can&t hold down a job. They become
homeless. The become drug addicts and alcoholics. Look at the way American treats the
homeless vets of the Viet Nam and Iraq wars begging on the streets. Watch some
documentaries about the shell shocked vets. One grabbed a clerk by the throat when
she did not hand over the change with sufficient respect. Others wake up screaming in
the night decades later reliving trauma. Most have marital breakdown. The sound of
packing bubbles popping sends a vet to the floor in cover. Another found he could not
handle his job clearing up road kill since he could not shake his fear there were
bombs hidden underneath the carcasses. You will become, at least to some extent, a
nutcase. 28% of Canadian soldiers returning from
Afghanistan are classified as having serious mental problems such as suicidal
tendencies, post-traumatic stress disorder or depression. The Veteran&s
Association estimates 37% of American soldiers returning
from Iraq are classified as having serious mental problems. Even the Bush
administration admits 15% of soldiers returning from Iraq
suffer from PTSD. On
(Canadian Broadcasting Corporation)
Newsworld Sunday Night aired a documentary called PTSD
The War at Home about Iraq vets suffering from PTSD
who snap and kill their families and neighbours. According to the documentary, to get
treatment for PTSD, there in a terrible catch 22, men must sign up for
another potential tour of duty in Iraq. They can&t face that so they go
untreated. According to CBC
Newsworld documentary, aired
16% of Canadian
soldiers returning from Afghanistan have a dangerous drinking problem, e.g. drunk
I feel so ashamed of myself. It is even worse than when I was in Afghanistan. I
have nightmares all the time. I feel so empty because I don&t know why I did
what I did in Afghanistan.
~ Travis , Canadian soldier returning from Afghanistan.Check out the
(Digital Video Disc) for a fictional account of
what it is like to be married to one of these losers.
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recommend DVD&rAFor Colored Girls
byEugene Jarecki [director]
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Based on the play For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf. Drama about a group of black women. It tackles a number of contentious issues, most notably the hell of living with a military veteran, rape, disparate income and self esteem. It has a large cast of female black actors including: Janet Jackson, Thandie Newton, Phylicia Rashad and Whoopi Goldberg.
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Watch a video of the tail end of the trial of Jeff Dahmer. He was a serial killer
who killed a number of American teenagers. The mothers of the victims screamed and
hurled obscenities at him. The families of your husband&s victims will feel
this way about him and you also for egging him on, though they may never get the
opportunity to confront you both. Strangers unrelated to the victims will also hate
you and hold you in contempt for what you have done. There is no way you will ever
convince any of these people to forgive you. You will be cursed in the strongest
imaginable ways. People will pray daily for generations for you to be tortured in
hell. Murdering, especially kids, is simply not acceptable. You are a monster if you
try to claim otherwise.
It is very common for such women to be in deep denial. They claim their partners
don&t kill people, don&t kill civilians or don&t kill children.
When confronted with the statistics, they either deny the statistics or say only
other soldiers kill, not their man. They are also in complete denial
about their r&le in supporting their husband in his career killing people. They
refuse to notice they buy their groceries with money earned killing people. They are
living off the avails of murder. They are totally convinced their husband is a hero,
and are baffled why anyone would have anything remotely negative to say about them.
They just can&t hear it when you explain why the husband is a war criminal, a
murderer or a paid thug. It is not that they disagree, they just can&t hear.
They keep asking over and over Why are you so angry with
me? That is the strength of their denial conditioning.
There are many additional reasons not to marry a soldier, which
are . Many of those penalties, you will feel too.
Perhaps your soldier boy has snowed you that he is a brave
fighter for freedom, nobly protecting his country from the bad guys. This was true in
WWII, but it certainly is
not true today. First, neither Iraq nor Afghanistan attacked the USA, Britain or
Canada. The Afghans and Iraqis have not killed a single civilian (unless you count
mercenaries in Iraq) in a war that has waged longer than WWII.
Bush claims that Saudis, not Iraqis or Afghans were
behind . The USA attacked unprovoked. Even the
WMDs (Weapon of Mass Destructions)
turned out to be a lie. Aggressive war is illegal under international law. Under the
Nuremberg principles, to aid or abet such a war is a capital offence.
The war in Iraq was not about Saddam. Saddam was captured on . The war did not pause for even a second. It could not have
been primarily about Saddam. Further, Saddam offered to surrender peacefully just
before the invasion. Bush did not want Saddam. He wanted Iraq&s oil. Bush
promised liberation, but instead bombed the residential sections of Baghdad in a
Nazi-like show of Shock & Awe brutality on the opening day of the war. Decadent
American cheered the spectacle live on CNN (Cable News Network)
from their couches, much like Romans of old viewing a cruelty extravaganza in the
Bush has no interest in even worse dictators that Saddam such as Robert Mugabe and
the generals who run Sudan. Those dictators don&t have the #2 oil reserves on
the planet. Further, the USA installed a puppet dictator, an ex-Unocal man, Hamid
Karzai in Afghanistan whose Ministry of Vice enforces the same repressive
Shari&aIslamic religious law as the Taliban. Clearly the
Afghanistan war is not about freedom either.
The notion the USA would spend $2 trillion for the
freedom of Muslims is absurd, especially when Americans have a strong racist hatred
of Muslims. On a per capita basis, USA is the stingiest of all the developed nations
when it comes to foreign aid. Americans are not spending these stupendous sums on the
wars out of the goodness of their hearts. It would be completely out of character.
They are spending them to get control of trillions of dollars worth of oil. Your
soldier boy is well aware of this, but he still likes to pretend he is seeking
revenge for , or protecting the fatherland. He is just
looking for an excuse to rape, maim, torture and kill. He is a
sadistic serial killer. That is what truly motivates him. Listen in when he is drunk
talking to his buddies about the real reasons he likes being a soldier. No matter how
smooth-talking, handsome, fit and charming he is, you don&t want to get
involved with a psychopath.
A soldier goes through strenuous training to teach him to obey
orders without question and also to order others about brusquely. This instant
obedience is considered necessary for combat conditions. However, that sort of
behaviour is less than optimal in a loving relationship. The movie The Great
Santini explores what happens when military reflexes leak back into family
Some soldiers are really really stupid. They are
Nazis at heart, who just go along with killing without making any effort at all to
see if it is justified. They honestly think that Iraq and Afghanistan attacked the
USA on 9/11 (even Bush claimed it was executed by Saudis
and funded by Pakistan, setting aside all evidence for inside collusion) and they are
killing peasants and children who have no weapons in order to protect their loved
ones back home in the USA. These are the sort of people who appear on Jay
Leno&s Jay Walking segment who are so out of touch with world
events they don&t even know the name of their president. They don&t make
any effort to see if the murders they are about to commit are justified because they
fantasise they will enjoy killing. They don&t want the facts to interfere with
their fun. Someone that stupid, that cruel and that selfish will never make an
adequate bread winner.
The problem with marrying a soldier is that his is already
married to the military. You will always play second fiddle. He will always do what
they want, not what you want. The military will decide what country you live in, whom
you socialise with, when your husband will leave you and for how long. They will
decide whom your husband will kill next and what risks he will take. They will even
decide what sort of haircut he has and how he wears his facial hair. They will decide
where your kids go to school. They will decide your income. You are marrying a
Momma&s boy who likes being told what to do and by someone who is not you.
However, if you are foreign born and just want to get a
meal ticket to the US-economy gravy train, marrying a soldier might make sense. He
will be away most of the time, so you won&t have to have much sex with him.
There is a good chance he will get his head blown off by an
IED (Improvised Explosive Device)
or turned into a mental vegetable. You can then marry someone else, without all his
drawbacks, while you are still young.
Since time immemorial, man have escaped their duty to look
after their children by running away to war.
Some of these points you will see clearly apply to the guy you are
thinking of marrying. Some of these points clearly do not apply. Some disadvantages
you may be unwilling to accept, but could well prove to apply later. All I ask is
that you think deeply before leaping into a marriage that could ruin your life. Ask
other women who have married men similar to the one you are planning to marry about
the advantages and disadvantages.
The military has a culture demeaning to women. Women
soldiers universally complain of sexual harassment and rape. Male soldiers refer even
to their girlfriends as pussy. Getting drunk and screwing
whores is the traditional military bonding ritual. The military culture teaches
soldiers to treat women as objects, useful only for raw physical sexual
gratification. This makes them easier to kill without hesitation or guilt.
The military drills its soldiers to believe that violence
is legitimate and to act on orders without thinking, without any hesitation. It also
teaches them bullying and torture are a legitimate way to get what they want. Do you
seriously want a man in your home with that sort of conditioning? who will react
violently without thinking? It would be a bit like choosing a pit bull rescued from a
dog fighting ring as a family pet.
Women who are sexually attracted to men who kill
children should not be permitted near children either, not even their own.
A soldier makes huge sacrifices, abandoning his loved ones and
family, risking health and life, eating revolting food and living in crowded,
stinking barracks. He risks brain damage and psychological trauma. Why? In
WWII it was to defend the
homeland. That does not apply today. Neither Afghanistan nor Iraq is the remotest
threat to the homeland. It is for the opportunity to hunt people, kill people, hurt
people, torture people, bully people and in some cases rape and torture children.
When he comes home, those dark desires won&t miraculously disappear. Sooner or
later he will take out his violence urges on you and your children.
(United Nations)
troops forced a young Somali to eat pork (extreme Islamic taboo), drink salt water,
and then eat his own vomit. Others roasted a Somali boy over a flaming fire and
urinated on a murdered Somali. These are Belgians, not Nazis, Russians or
Americans. Belgians are the people who perfected chocolate and pommes frite. Why
did these Belgian soldiers do this? Look at the glee on the face of the soldier on
the left in the photo. These men are sadists. They enlisted for opportunities to
humiliate and hurt people. There no possible motive of self defence. Belgium is not
under attack and if it were, the entire EU would race to its defence. This same
sadism is the reason young Americans enlisted for the Afghan and Iraq wars. It is
the same reason no sane young woman (or man) should consider marrying a soldier of
any nationality.
~ Roedy (born: age:67)
If you marry a soldier, you may have children with him.
50% of their genes will be his. Your children may well
inherit his propensity for violence and homicide. It may express itself it socially
unacceptable ways. They too may grow up to be hired killers.
Children usually adore their fathers and mimic him in every detail.
They take their values from him. You see it all the time, generations of military
families where sons grow up to be killers to please their fathers.
Soldiers are trained to kill for no reason and without
hesitation. Sometimes soldiers crack from battle stress and startle at any loud noise
or footsteps in the dark and react instinctively as if they were back in battle.
Your husband could well beat or kill you and your children without even thinking.
Rent the DVD
The Great Santini. Some military men bring their notions of discipline
home and drive their families nuts. They are more likely to order their wives about
and treat children as objects, because that is what they are trained to do.
If you train a soldier to shoot a five year old without batting an eye, on the
grounds the child might be concealing a grenade, you have to expect him to be somewhat
callous when he returns to family life. He will think nothing of dashing his infant son
against a wall or threatening his wife with a handgun if she fails to do the
Think long and hard about why he enlisted. Don&t just blindly accept the
first trite lie you are given. Recruiting posters always talk of defending the
homeland even when your country clearly attacked first and the other country is a
small fraction the size of yours. There are two kinds of wars:
A war where your country is attacked.
A war where your country attacked someone else.
Usually in the first type there is a draft and in the second there is not, though
there was a draft for the Viet Nam war. There is a pressing need for young men to
defend their country in the first sort of war. In the second, there is not. The first
the second is not.
Why then do people enlist for the second type of war? They are obviously well
aware they will be asked to bully, torture and kill children, women and men, so they
could not have that big an objection to doing it.
They like killing. They are natural serial killers who seek a socially
acceptable outlet.
They are sadists. They seek socially acceptable outlet for their cruelty.
They want to get away from their wives and families. They prefer male
camaraderie.
They enjoy the adrenalin thrill of combat.
They love playing with high tech war toys.
They are rapists or child molesters seeking unlimited outlets where they will
not face legal repercussions.
They have committed some crime and are looking for a way to quickly disappear
until the heat is over.
There is a family tradition of enlisting in the military. The enlistee has no
mind of his own and does whatever his parents demand no matter how morally
repugnant.
The enlistee is a high school dropout with no marketable skills. It is a choice
between becoming a drug dealer, going on welfare or enlisting and killing innocent
people. He chose to become the lowest-pay grade hit man.
They have master/slave fantasies. The idea of big bellowing sadistic sergeant
with his foot up their butt turns them on something fierce.
They are seeking a socially acceptable means of suicide.
These are just some of the good reasons to stay well away from such psychotic
people as friends, lovers or spouses.
Women often write me protesting that they love their soldier husbands. I don&t
doubt that. Soldiers tend to be fit, sexy and fun companions. I am just warning you of
the dangers of selection one for a husband.
Hollywood usually portrays soldiers as adult boy scouts. So powerful is that Hollywood
image that Americans conveniently forget that their soldiers have killed well over a
million Iraqi children. That nobility might have described most of the soldiers in .
Don&t and II, but not the soldiers who volunteered for killing when their own
nation was not attacked e.g. in Viet Nam, Afghanistan or Iraq. A more typical soldier
today is a gang member who discovers the army is the only employer that will accept a
loser like him, or a psychopath who wants free reign to loot, rape, torture and kill with
almost no possibility of prosecution, at least from American courts. Americans have no
trouble believing soldiers from other countries are thugs, but insist their own are
saintly. There is no reason at all that should be so. What drives this delusion is the
same sort of idiotic pride that besotted the Nazis with their master race nonsense.
American soldiers have the same failings as any other soldiers.
Today&s American soldiers are not draftees. Of all possible vocations, they
chose killing, mostly civilians and of them mostly children. They are
seriously sick individuals. If anything, America behaves worse than any other militaries,
ignoring the Geneva conventions as quaint, using routine
torture and banned weapons. It foolish national pride that leads Americans to claim their
soldiers behave infinitely better than any other soldiers.
There are women who fully understand they are marrying serial killers/soldiers, but do
it anyway. They see me as hateful either for disproving of their husbands murderous
activity, or for accusing their husbands of murder. Some may be so
they don&t believe the primary function of soldier is killing people, but most are
completely aware of what their husbands do and they get a sexual charge from it. They
are repressed serial killers themselves. They get their jollies vicariously. They
strongly don&t like it that I have no respect for people who murder or egg on
murders. It is perfectly normal to despise child killers, or grandma killers. These
twisted women want us to make an exception for their husbands. I lump them with the
nutcases who marry incarcerated serial killers, trying to convince everyone else that
under the murderous exterior of their partner lurks a lovable teddy bear. They know
perfectly well what sort of partner they have chosen. They are living out their own sick
fantasies through him. The ones who marry soldiers are even sicker that the ones who
marry the incarcerated because their partners are free to keep on murdering and thus
provide endless titillation. Oddly, because of indoctrination with military propaganda,
most Americas will buy the BS these women sling to defend themselves and their husbands.
I flatly refuse to believe such crap. It drives them nuts. They know what they are doing
is wrong. Having even one person call them on their lies stings their consciences.
Serial killers on death row may often attract a dozen or so female groupies. Why are
the women doing that? I think it goes back to our pre-civilisation days. There was no law
to protect you, just a big, mean, nasty mate willing and able to dispatch anyone who
threatened you. I think some women are acting on this primitive drive. Even normal women
prefer large, well-muscled men. Then there are the large numbers of women pathologically
attracted to men in the military who kill for a living. The idea of killing excites them,
but they don&t want the direct involvement that they would get if they enlisted
themselves.
One of the most bizarre excuses for the Iraq war that Americans give me is that they
are defending their freedom from attack by Iraq. What attack? ? Even president Bush on , said
that Saddam Hussein had nothing to do with . Bush said
bin Laden, a Saudi and a small band of Saudi Al-Qaeda was responsible. Everyone saw
the USA bomb the residential sections of Baghdad live on CNN
on , the opening day of the war, not the reverse.
There was no WMD (Weapon of Mass Destruction)
attack. There were not even any WMDs.
Americans are offended that Iraqis attacked them when the US military illegally invaded
their country and started plundering it. That is defence, not attack. What American
freedom did Iraqis interfere with & the American divine right to steal? The war
was not even about liberating Iraqis from Saddam since Saddam offered to surrender
before the war and was deposed the instant the war started. If regime change were
truly what the war were about, the war should have ended as soon as Saddam was captured
(11 years and 9 months
ago). It raged on even more fiercely, without even a hiccup, indicating there was
something else fueling it. Hint what does Iraq have billions of barrels of that the USA
thinks it desperately needs, needs badly enough to kill and torture children for? War
is about stealing other people&s resources. The rest is patriotic bullshit to
sell them to gullible people.
~ Roedy (born: age:67)
You might wonder why I wrote this essay. The deaths of innocent people haunt me. I
think about them as I lie trying to sleep. I try to think what I could do to stop
ignorant Americans from committing these crimes, particularly killing and torturing
children in Afghanistan and Iraq. I feel personally responsible since it seems I am one
of the few people who gives a damn. I have found soldiers the most ignorant people on the
planet and the most stubbornly proud of that ignorance. They have been brainwashed into
thinking killing and torture are good. I don&t have much hope of directly
convincing them to give up their life of crime, though I try. However, the women who
support these men are perhaps a bit more amenable to reason. If I could convince women to
avoid soldiers as sexual partners, it would make life as a soldier more difficult. If I
could convince women to avoid soldiers as sexual partners, I could save those women from
a life of misery. If I could convince women to avoid soldiers as sexual partners, I could
prevent those soldiers from passing on their defective genes. If I could destroy the
reputation of soldiers as life partners, then soldiers might avoid the profession just to
get laid. From the furious response, I am hitting a nerve. I find it astounding that
anyone will publicly champion child rapists, child killers and child torturers, but that
is what the majority of responders do. They are as sick as the soldiers.
If you have any doubts about your fianc&, those doubts are most likely to grow
over time. You need to be very sure about a choice of life partner. A serial killer who
will rarely be home is hardly the best father material. You are choosing both for
yourself and your potential children. Save yourself heartache and choose a man you can
solidly trust to be kind and loving instead. You deserve that.
P.S. I am using the term soldier in the generic sense of
anyone in the military, which would include navy, air force and marines. They all chose
to kill people for a living. Most of them committed a capital crime by aiding and
abetting either of the two illegal aggressive wars: Afghanistan and Iraq.
This essay tends to generate a lot of feedback of the form &I want to/am going
to kill you. You are wrong. Change it to be pro-US military. How dare you not worship the
ground US soldiers walk on. You would not be alive if it were not for them killing
children on your behalf. The USA is #1, rah, rah, rah. Everybody else is a stinky
raghead. You are not worthy to lick our asses.& It would be rather irresponsible of
me to ignore all my sources and arguments and rewrite my essay to suit some anonymous
boor on the Internet who offered no reasons or sources for his/her opinions. If you
disagree with some fact I have asserted, please point to a definitive source, rather than
just saying everything you said is untrue However, I doubt
there is anying you could say that would convince me to have even the tiniest bit of
respect for someone who makes his living killing children. I wrote this and related
essays about circa . Unfortunately, since then many of the
supporting links have gone stale and I had to remove them. Unfortunately, the most
important ones were to documents on the Bush White House website, now all withdrawn. That
is not under my control. I asked the White House to put them back, or archive them and
predictably, they ignored me. I consider people who approve of butchering children in
Afghanistan and Iraq mentally ill, in the legal sense of not understanding the difference
between right and wrong. They are going to have to work very hard to convince me I am
wrong, just as I would not take at face value something someone living in an insane
asylum told me. They will need to marshal facts and logical argument. They can&t
just bluster or bully me. If they actually joined the military, when they enlisted, they
signed a contract agreeing to butcher children for no reason other than being ordered to.
That makes them a repulsive and dangerous psychopath, in my book. How can I possibly
trust anything they say? By the way, those kids have every right to blow the damn heads
off US military. America invaded their country unprovoked and illegally.
You might ask, but did not the conscripts and enlistees of WWII
do the same thing? Yes and they committed atrocities too,
however they had the excuse they had to defend their country. Modern soldiers have no
such excuse. Neither Afghanistan nor Iraq attacked or threatened the USA.
I don&t claim that each of these points in itself is sufficient reason to reject
a soldier spouse or that every point applies to every soldier. I am saying that you would
be wise to consider each factor and to decide for yourself how well it fits your
particular case. I am saying that overall, soldiers are quite attractive in the short run
because of their fit bodies, but usually will make your life miserable in the long run.
Go in with your eyes wide open. Make sure you talk to a number of military wives first.
And don&t say I didn&t warn you. If you go ahead anyway, you fully deserve
whatever happens to you.
I have written many essays critical of war and soldiers. However, this is the one that
drives the sadists who favour killing children apoplectic. Why is that? Perhaps they feel
confident I will never stop the Pentagon from providing them opportunities to kill and
torture children, but women might read my essay and be convinced to cut off their supply
of penis lubricant. They already know they are poor relationship material. This essay
just rubs their noses in it. That is why they squirm when they read it.
When there are no wars, soldiers do exercises to prepare for rescue from earthquake,
flood and other natural disasters. This is a challenging work and completely admirable.
The objections I stated above would not apply.
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